Is Shyness Genetic Among Kids?


When the first baby arrives, most parents do not know what to expect. They receive all sorts of advice about sleeping, feeding and fussy times. Countless books, magazines and parent how-to manuals discuss how parents can influence their infant’s patterns of behavior. But, what about a child’s personality? In time, parents develop an understanding that all of their children are born with their own personality, with individualized patterns of reactivity to lights, sounds, movement and touch. Parents then realize, even with their first child, from early on unique patterns of reactivity and personality were evident.

Child psychologists call the differences among children in reactivity a child’s temperament. Temperament appears early in life and affects the family environment. It is the particular behavioral style that an infant exhibits when confronted with novel auditory or visual stimuli, or the pattern of reactivity that an infant displays to variations in intensity of sounds and sights.

How does an infant’s temperament have such a powerful influence on a child’s social development? Here’s what we know. Although parents may adopt certain strategies for taking care of their infants, it is the baby’s temperament that determines the success of those strategies. If the baby is low in reactivity to novelty, parents who wish to control situations may have a relatively easy time during child-rearing. On the other hand, if the baby is highly negatively reactive and the parents try to control a situation, such as by pushing the infant to socialize in a setting in which the infant cannot cope, the situation may deteriorate. Parents may respond to the infant’s distress with their own frustration, further exacerbating the infant’s negative emotional state. Now both the infant and the parents are distressed, preventing mutually rewarding interactions from occurring. Therefore, babies essentially define their caregiving environments.

As infants grow up and develop into toddlers, preschoolers and school-age children, their temperaments accompany them. Infants who are temperamentally fearful often grow up into socially reticent preschoolers and shy school-age children. Exuberant, temperamentally happy infants often continue to be happy, engaging youngsters. And, impulsive, highly active infants may continue to exhibit these traits as they grow older.
Three points are important for parents to remember: First, there are many different temperaments. Scientific research suggests that each temperament is the product of genetics and brain chemistry, and there are many different combinations of these genes and chemicals. We read a lot about highly reactive infants, as well as fearful, vivacious and shy children. But, there are probably many other types of temperaments that have not been as carefully described by child psychologists, yet that have meaningful effects upon children’s growth and development.

Second, many of the findings reported about the powerful influence of temperament are about children at the extremes. For example, it appears that highly reactive infants who express distress to novelty are likely to exhibit socially reticent behaviors as older children. However, these findings are only found when looking at the most extremely reactive infants. The majority of infants who show variations in reactivity are unlikely to show strong continuity across development.

Third, the influence and importance of temperament do not determine biology. Quite the contrary. Scientists used to argue whether a child’s development was a product of nature or nurture. Not anymore. Over the last ten years, with advances in molecular genetics and the decoding of the human genome, it has become clear that genetics alone does not determine outcomes for the complex behaviors of human personality.
The cutting-edge thinking about how genes work is through what are called gene-environment interactions. What this means is that two individuals may have the same gene but may grow up in very different families and environments. One may grow up in a family with low stress and bountiful resources. Another may grow up in a family where there is stress, frequent arguments, chaos, confusion and limited resources. Even though both children have the same gene, one environment will activate the gene for shyness, while another won’t. Thus, there is an interaction between nature and nurture, between genetics and the environments in which children develop. How does the environment activate the gene? Though we currently do not know, scientists believe that it is the child’s interaction with the environment, along with the interpretation of the environment, that somehow changes gene expression in the brain.